2008-ci il idi. Bir ne\u00e7\u0259 ay \u0130ngilt\u0259r\u0259d\u0259 ya\u015famal\u0131 oldum. Oksfordda qal\u0131rd\u0131m. Balaca, \u0259sas\u0259n t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259l\u0259rin ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir \u015f\u0259h\u0259r idi.
\nBir ne\u00e7\u0259 h\u0259ft\u0259 bir ail\u0259d\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131m. \u018fr amerikal\u0131, xan\u0131m\u0131 yaponiyal\u0131 idi. S\u0259h\u0259r v\u0259 ax\u015fam yem\u0259kl\u0259rind\u0259 birlikd\u0259 olurduq. Qalan vaxtlarda m\u0259n d\u0259rsd\u0259 v\u0259 ya kitabxanada olard\u0131m. Orada oldu\u011fum \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc h\u0259ft\u0259 m\u0259ni heyr\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259tir\u0259n bir hadis\u0259 il\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015fd\u0131m.
\n\u0130ngilt\u0259r\u0259d\u0259 olanlar yax\u015f\u0131 bilir, orada hava az qala h\u0259r saniy\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fir. Gur ya\u011f\u0131\u015f ya\u011far, bir d\u0259qiq\u0259 sonra g\u00fcn\u0259\u015f \u00e7\u0131xar. H\u0259min gec\u0259 d\u0259 \u00e7\u00f6ld\u0259 d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli ya\u011f\u0131\u015f ya\u011f\u0131rd\u0131. Sanki g\u00f6yd\u0259n vedr\u0259 il\u0259 su t\u00f6k\u00fcl\u00fcrd\u00fc.
\nYa\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131n gurultusuna qar\u0131\u015fan d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli qap\u0131 d\u00f6y\u00fclm\u0259sin\u0259 oyand\u0131m. G\u0259nc bir o\u011flan dayanmadan, s\u0259rt \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 qap\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6y\u00fcrd\u00fc.
\nMr. Ford v\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131 is\u0259 sakitc\u0259 qap\u0131n\u0131n arxas\u0131nda dayanm\u0131\u015fd\u0131lar. Arabir o\u011flana \u00abGet buradan, yoxsa polis \u00e7a\u011f\u0131raca\u011f\u0131q\u00bb deyirdil\u0259r.
\nQap\u0131n\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda, \u00e7iynind\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck bir \u00e7anta il\u0259 dayanan g\u0259ncin kim oldu\u011funu bilm\u0259k ist\u0259diyim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ikinci m\u0259rt\u0259b\u0259d\u0259ki ota\u011f\u0131mdan a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 endim.
\n\u2014 Qap\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6y\u0259n kimdir? \u2014 dey\u0259 soru\u015fdum.
\n\u2014 O\u011flumdur, \u2014 dedi.
\n\u2014 B\u0259s niy\u0259 qap\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7m\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z?
\nCavab\u0131 m\u0259ni heyr\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259tirdi:
\n\u2014 O art\u0131q 18 ya\u015fl\u0131 g\u0259ncdir. Getsin i\u015fl\u0259sin, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 ev tutsun.
\n\u00c7a\u015fq\u0131nl\u0131q i\u00e7ind\u0259 idim. Bu soyuq v\u0259 ya\u011f\u0131\u015fl\u0131 havada bir valideyn \u00f6z \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131 nec\u0259 k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259d\u0259 qoya bil\u0259rdi? 18 ya\u015fl\u0131 bir g\u0259nc nec\u0259 t\u0259kba\u015f\u0131na qalmal\u0131 idi?
\nMr. Ford v\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131 polis\u0259 z\u0259ng etm\u0259k q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259ldil\u0259r. T\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr edin, valideynl\u0259r 18 ya\u015fl\u0131 o\u011fullar\u0131n\u0131n onlar\u0131 narahat etdiyini \u0259sas g\u0259tir\u0259r\u0259k \u00f6z evl\u0259rind\u0259 ona s\u0131\u011f\u0131nacaq verm\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn polis \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131lar.
\nH\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259nl\u0259ri anlama\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131m. Bird\u0259n soru\u015fdum:
\n\u2014 Yax\u0131nl\u0131qda gec\u0259l\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir yer varm\u0131?
\nEvin iki kilometrliyind\u0259 motel oldu\u011funu, bir gec\u0259nin 20-25 funt sterlinq\u0259 ba\u015fa g\u0259ldiyini dedil\u0259r.
\nYuxar\u0131 qalx\u0131b \u00e7antamdan 25 funt g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fcm.
\n\u2014 Bunu o\u011flunuza verin. He\u00e7 olmasa, bu gec\u0259 gedib bir yerd\u0259 qals\u0131n.
\nKi\u015fi az qala \u015foka d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fc. M\u0259ni d\u0259li adland\u0131rd\u0131.
\nB\u0259li, bir c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 ata \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n art\u0131q \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 qurmaq ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7atd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dey\u0259r\u0259k onu k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259d\u0259 qoyursa, yad bir insan is\u0259 h\u0259min g\u0259ncin gec\u0259ni k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259d\u0259 ke\u00e7irm\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259lind\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259ni edirs\u0259, \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259, ona d\u0259li dey\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r.
\nO gec\u0259 m\u0259nim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259m d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli, h\u0259m d\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc bir gec\u0259 oldu. S\u0259h\u0259r\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r do\u011fuldu\u011fum, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u00f6lk\u0259ni, ad\u0259t-\u0259n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259rimizi, ail\u0259 ba\u011flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm.
\nAtam\u0131n, anam\u0131n, t\u0259kc\u0259 m\u0259nim valideynl\u0259rimin deyil, b\u00fct\u00fcn b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rimizin \u00f6vlad y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u0259rinin sonuna q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7iyinl\u0259rind\u0259 da\u015f\u0131malar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. \u00d6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259hvl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 az qala dar a\u011fac\u0131ndan as\u0131lan valideynl\u0259ri, yaxud valideynl\u0259rinin g\u00fcnah\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 lin\u00e7 edil\u0259n \u00f6vladlar\u0131\u2026
\nB\u0259s do\u011fru olan hans\u0131d\u0131r? \u00d6vlad\u0131n\u0131 18 ya\u015f\u0131na q\u0259d\u0259r b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcb sonra \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 qurma\u011fa buraxmaq, yoxsa \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn sonuna q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7iyinl\u0259rind\u0259 da\u015f\u0131maq?
\n\u0130ki g\u00fcnd\u00fcr bax\u0131ram, o\u011fluna g\u00f6r\u0259 deputat\u0131 s\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fcr, lin\u00e7 edirl\u0259r. Ay dostlar, 18 ya\u015f\u0131na q\u0259d\u0259r b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcb, t\u0259hsil verib, indi bu ki\u015fi \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn sonuna q\u0259d\u0259r o\u011flunun arxas\u0131nca d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259lidir?
\nDey\u0259c\u0259ksiniz, t\u0259rbiy\u0259 verm\u0259yib. Raz\u0131 deyil\u0259m. Art\u0131q m\u00fchit, \u0259traf t\u0259rbiy\u0259 edir \u00f6vladlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131. Valideyn min bir \u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259, arzularla \u00f6vlad b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcr. O \u0259ziyy\u0259ti g\u00f6r\u0259n, o arzular\u0131 bil\u0259n \u00f6vlad yetkinlik ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7atanda valideynini q\u00fcrurland\u0131rmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r. Valideyninin ad\u0131na, san\u0131na x\u0259l\u0259l g\u0259lm\u0259sin dey\u0259 atd\u0131\u011f\u0131 add\u0131mlara, \u0259traf\u0131ndak\u0131 dostlar\u0131n kimliyin\u0259 diqq\u0259t etm\u0259lidir!
\nBu g\u00fcn ne\u00e7\u0259 faiz g\u0259nc, ne\u00e7\u0259 \u00f6vlad valideyn s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc e\u015fidir? Dey\u0259 bil\u0259rsiniz? Yox!
\nYetkinlik ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7atm\u0131\u015f \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n etdiyi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 valideyn niy\u0259 cavabdeh olmal\u0131d\u0131r? V\u0259 ya \u0259ksin\u0259, o\u011ful v\u0259 ya q\u0131z valideyninin etdiyi s\u0259hv\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 niy\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131mal\u0131d\u0131r?
\nNiy\u0259 bir ata 50 ya\u015fl\u0131 o\u011flunu h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 \u00f6z evind\u0259 saxlamal\u0131, yedirtm\u0259li, ona ev almal\u0131, u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 doland\u0131rmal\u0131d\u0131r? \u00dcst\u0259lik, h\u0259min o\u011fulun etdiyi s\u0259hv\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 q\u0131nanmal\u0131, b\u0259z\u0259n i\u015find\u0259n olmal\u0131d\u0131r?
\nNiy\u0259? Harada bitir valideynin m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti, harada ba\u015flay\u0131r \u00f6vlad\u0131n \u00f6z m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti?
\n\u00d6vlad n\u0259 vaxt \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131na, \u00f6z q\u0259rarlar\u0131na, \u00f6z s\u0259hvl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131yacaq? Valideyn olmaq b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00f6mr\u00fc boyu \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 cavab verm\u0259kdirmi?
\nB\u0259li, \u00f6vlad d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirm\u0259k \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fck m\u0259suliyy\u0259tdir, amma bu, \u00f6vlad\u0131n h\u0259r s\u0259hvin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fck cavab verm\u0259k dem\u0259k deyil!<\/p>\n
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