Karlson \u015e\u0259rqi San-Fransisko K\u00f6rf\u0259zind\u0259ki Kaliforniya \u015ftat\u0131n\u0131n Piedmont \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259 anadan olub, b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb. Tennis oynad\u0131 v\u0259 1979-cu ild\u0259 \u015eimali Kaliforniyada \u00fcst s\u0131ralarda i\u015ftirak etdi. 1981-ci ild\u0259 Kaliforniya \u015ftat\u0131n\u0131n Malibu \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259ki Pepperdine Universitetind\u0259 bakalavr d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259si al\u0131b v\u0259 burada Kristine Anderson (Kris Carlson) il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olub. Karlson karyeras\u0131n\u0131 psixoterapevt kimi ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f v\u0259 stress idar\u0259etm\u0259 m\u0259rk\u0259zin\u0259 qa\u00e7m\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. 1985-ci ild\u0259 ilk kitab\u0131 n\u0259\u015fr etdi, amma 10-cu kitab\u0131 il\u0259 m\u0259\u015fhur oldu \u2013 \u201cX\u0131rda \u015eeyl\u0259ri D\u0259rd Etm\u0259yin..\u201d<\/p>\n
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\u200bS\u0259bir \u2013 \u015f\u00fcurlu bir m\u0259\u015fq proqram\u0131 il\u0259 \u00e7ox inki\u015faf etdirilm\u0259si m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olan \u00fcr\u0259k i\u015fidir. \u00d6z s\u0259brimi d\u0259rinl\u0259\u015fdir\u0259 bilm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn tapd\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u00e7ox t\u0259sirli bir \u00fcsul m\u0259\u015fq ed\u0259c\u0259yim m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n d\u0259rs saatlar\u0131 yaratmaq oldu. Bu anlarda a\u011fl\u0131m\u0131 b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fckl\u0259 y\u00f6nl\u0259ndirib, “s\u0259bir etm\u0259 s\u0259n\u0259tini” t\u0259kmill\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131ram. H\u0259yat\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc bir m\u0259kt\u0259b, d\u0259rsin m\u00f6vzusu da s\u0259bir olur.
\n\u200bBe\u015f d\u0259qiq\u0259lik d\u0259rsl\u0259rl\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131b, vaxt ke\u00e7dikc\u0259 s\u0259bir dair\u0259nizi geni\u015fl\u0259ndir\u0259 bil\u0259rsiniz. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 bunlar\u0131 dem\u0259kl\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131n: “Bu andan etibar\u0259n be\u015f d\u0259qiq\u0259 boyunca he\u00e7 n\u0259yin m\u0259ni \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259y\u0259 icaz\u0259 verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m. S\u0259birli olaca\u011fam”. N\u0259tic\u0259 sizi \u00e7ox t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u0259ndir\u0259c\u0259k. X\u00fcsusil\u0259 q\u0131sa m\u00fcdd\u0259tli oldu\u011funu bildiyiniz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn s\u0259birli olmaq niyy\u0259tiniz s\u0259bir dair\u0259nizi bir anda geni\u015fl\u0259ndir\u0259c\u0259kdir. S\u0259bir el\u0259 bir keyfiyy\u0259tdir ki, m\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259t burada \u00f6z\u00fc-\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc b\u0259sl\u0259yir. Be\u015fd\u0259qiq\u0259likl\u0259ri u\u011furla t\u0259tbiq etdikd\u0259n sonra bundan daha uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 s\u0259birli oldu\u011funuzu g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259ksiniz. Vaxt ke\u00e7dikc\u0259, h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n d\u0259, s\u0259birli bir insan ola bil\u0259rsiniz.
\nEvd\u0259 azya\u015fl\u0131 u\u015faqlar\u0131m oldu\u011fundan s\u0259bir art\u0131rma m\u0259\u015fql\u0259rini etm\u0259yim\u0259 geni\u015f imkan yaran\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, v\u0259cib telefon dan\u0131\u015f\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fcz ortas\u0131nda h\u0259r iki q\u0131z\u0131m da m\u0259n\u0259 suallar ya\u011f\u0131randa \u00f6z\u00fcm\u0259 bel\u0259 deyir\u0259m: “\u0130ndi s\u0259birli olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox m\u00fcnasib bir m\u0259qamd\u0131r. Yar\u0131m saat boyunca bacard\u0131\u011f\u0131m q\u0259d\u0259r s\u0259birli olaca\u011fam (g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fcz kimi, \u00e7ox \u00e7al\u0131\u015faraq m\u00fcdd\u0259ti otuz d\u0259qiq\u0259y\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r uzatm\u0131\u015fam)”. Zarafat bir yana, i\u015f\u0259 yaray\u0131r… M\u0259nim evimd\u0259 \u00e7ox i\u015f\u0259 yarad\u0131. Soyuqqanl\u0131 olub q\u0259z\u0259bimi cilovlayanda, sakit, amma q\u0259rarl\u0131 bir \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131ma \u0259s\u0259bi oldu\u011fum vaxtlardan daha \u00e7ox t\u0259sir edib y\u00f6nl\u0259ndir\u0259 bilir\u0259m. S\u0259birli olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn etdiyim cidd-c\u0259hdl\u0259r, an\u0131 daha uzun ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131ma s\u0259b\u0259b olur v\u0259 bu hadis\u0259nin ke\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259 daha \u00e7ox ba\u015f verdiyini fikirl\u0259\u015fir\u0259m. \u018fn g\u00f6z\u0259li d\u0259 odur ki, m\u0259nim s\u0259birli davran\u0131\u015f\u0131m u\u015faqlara da siray\u0259t edir v\u0259 atalar\u0131n\u0131 narahat etm\u0259yin el\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259li olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na q\u0259rar verirl\u0259r.
\n\u200bS\u0259birli olmaq hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn baxma\u011f\u0131ma r\u0259vac verir. \u018fn \u00e7\u0259tin v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131ma \u00e7\u0131xan problemin “\u00f6l\u00fcm-itim” m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259si yox, sad\u0259c\u0259, a\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 laz\u0131m olan ki\u00e7ik bir mane\u0259 oldu\u011funu xat\u0131rlay\u0131ram. S\u0259birli olmayanda h\u0259min ssenari qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 q\u0131\u015fq\u0131rma, q\u0259z\u0259bl\u0259nm\u0259, inciklik v\u0259 y\u00fcks\u0259k t\u0259zyiq\u0259 yol a\u00e7an h\u0259yati m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259 bil\u0259r. U\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n, m\u00fcdirinizin, \u00e7\u0259tin bir insan\u0131n v\u0259 ya v\u0259ziyy\u0259tin \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259lm\u0259k ist\u0259s\u0259niz, \u0259g\u0259r “x\u0131rda \u015feyl\u0259rin” d\u0259rdini \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k ist\u0259mirsinizs\u0259, s\u0259brinizi art\u0131rmaq \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131 bir ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c olacaqd\u0131r.<\/p>\n
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M\u00fc\u0259llif: Ri\u00e7ard Karlson<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n M\u0259nb\u0259: Odlar.media<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Karlson \u015e\u0259rqi San-Fransisko K\u00f6rf\u0259zind\u0259ki Kaliforniya \u015ftat\u0131n\u0131n Piedmont \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259 anadan olub, b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb. Tennis oynad\u0131 v\u0259 1979-cu ild\u0259 \u015eimali Kaliforniyada \u00fcst s\u0131ralarda i\u015ftirak etdi. 1981-ci ild\u0259 Kaliforniya \u015ftat\u0131n\u0131n Malibu \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259ki Pepperdine Universitetind\u0259… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":537,"featured_media":85945,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[54,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-85944","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kos","category-manset","odlar-title-color-c62828"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85944","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/537"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=85944"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85944\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":85952,"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85944\/revisions\/85952"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/85945"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=85944"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=85944"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/odlar.media\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=85944"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}